Should Speaking Be Fun?

Is Speaking Supposed to Be Fun? Maybe That’s Not the Point

Recently, while helping someone prepare for a big talk, they stopped mid-session and said, “I’m just not really having a good time.”

And honestly? Fair.

Speaking – especially when you’re not used to it – can feel a lot. Vulnerable. Exposing.

But what that comment opened up was a bigger, more interesting question:

Do we actually need to enjoy speaking?

Don’t get me wrong. My aim as a coach is always to help people speak, record, and present with more ease, confidence, and – yes – enjoyment. But we have to make space for the fact that not every stage, podcast booth, or panel is going to feel like a party.

And crucially: it’s not about you.
Your job isn’t to enjoy yourself – it’s to connect. To inspire. To guide, lead, provoke thought, change minds, move people to action.

That might involve a bit of personal discomfort.

But the more you rehearse, the more prepared you are, the less energy you’ll spend worrying about how you feel – and the more you can focus on how they feel.

Of course, if you’re having a great time, chances are the audience will too. But it’s not a guarantee. And the reverse is true as well – you can be nervous as hell and still make a big impact.

So next time you’re prepping a talk or stepping on stage, try asking yourself this:

Am I having a good time?
Great.
But are they?
That’s the question that matters more.

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